Building Confidence Through the Power of Choice

Friday, November 16, 2007 by: Violet King
Tags: self confidence, health news, Natural News

(NewsTarget) Do you know what your greatest asset is? It is the power to choose! Making changes will increase your confidence, and give you self esteem.

Start by choosing to examine your own personality; do you find it difficult to get along with other people? Do you tend to argue too much? Have you had trouble making and keeping friends?

Well you can now make a choice. Do you want to stay that way, or are you strong enough and determined enough to make changes? You choose! You could develop the finest of personalities; you could be looked up to and admired.  Do you want to go through life without exercising your right to make the choices that would bring about these changes? Suppose you don't choose to make changes. Is your life the way you want it to be? If it is, then don't read any further, this article is not for you.  I hope you are getting the very best that you can out of life and everything your life touches.

One good decision changes everything. Your power to choose, to make a good decision, spells the difference between just wishing and making those wishes come true. Someone once said, "When it comes to believing in myself, I'm an agnostic." One of the greatest problems many people experience is lack of confidence in themselves. Some don't believe in their ability to speak in public, or to accomplish something they've never done before, and still others do not have the confidence to overcome their shyness.

Do you know that you can learn to become more confident? One effective technique is to learn to do what you're afraid to do. At a seminar I attended a few years ago, the tutor asked for three volunteers to speak to the group the next day. One young woman was the first to raise her hand. She explained to me later why she did so: "When he asked for three volunteers," she said, "I felt a knot of fear in my stomach. I've never done anything like this before and I've never really believed I could. But the fear was telling me something," she continued. "So...BECAUSE I felt so anxious, I decided that this was something I had to do. But I must tell you, I'm terrified!" Nevertheless, she made up her mind to do that which she was afraid to do. And the following day, her five-minute talk was superb! Now she is more confident about her ability to speak in public.

When you make what you're afraid to do what you choose to do, you will soon have the confidence to do whatever you choose!

Do you need to exercise your greatest power? Your power to choose can never be taken from you. It can be neglected. It can be ignored. But if used, it can make all the difference. Use your greatest power and, whether or not you change history, you will certainly change your future.

About the author

I live in Spain now, but I trained as a counsellor in the UK. My training as a counsellor was the Carl Rogers' system of person centred counselling... not giving advice, but helping people to take control of their lives by realising that they should take the responsibility for where they are in life. Before I left the UK I was working with Careline, the National telephone counselling organisation....I learnt a lot from the challenges presented there!!!
My husband and I left the UK in December 1999 and moved to Spain to live. From that time onwards I was able to concentrate on the things I enjoy most....my work as a counsellor, hosting self improvement groups, starting two non smoking social clubs, and writing articles for several monthly magazines here for the English speaking community. I have also been on local Sol TV twice and Madrid and Local Radio.
My first book was published in 2006.... I have had such lovely feedback from many readers.....so I just want to pass on the things that I have learned over the years that have really helped to improve my life and my way of looking at things.
Positive thinking plays a big part in taking control of your life and I have personally learnt a great deal from that. I have applied it in my own life, and have also seen how others have become stronger and happier through it, so I am convinced that most people who want to make changes can benefit and achieve great improvements.